iLAPP

Below is a video that demonstrates the iLAPP listening exercise when engaging with a family member or friend over an issue with which you disagree. This one is on gun control.

The iLAPP structured listening was developed by David Lapp, one of the co-founders of Braver Angels. As you watch this short video you will notice each of the iLAPP elements:

• INVITE a conversation (e.g. "is this a good time?")

• LISTEN (e.g. "Help me understand more about your thoughts."  "I'm curious about how you came to hold your opinion on this.")

• ACKNOWLEDGE (e.g. "What I hear you saying is... Did I get that right"?)

• PIVOT (e.g. "I agree with you that... OR I'm with you on..."  "I have a different perspective on that.  Are you willing hear it?")

• PERSPECTIVE Offer your own POV.